Most relationships don't end, in my experience, over huge issues. The problems are not - usually - over cheating, or any of those catastrophic events people hear about. In my experience, they end over whose turn it is to do the dishes and the importance of saying thanks.
They end because someone stops feeling loved, appreciated and like the relationship has meaning or value anymore.
If you want to hurt me, break your word to me. And do so for no real reason, not because something happened but because nothing did. I can forgive you sleeping with someone else. I can't forgive the 10th time you 'forgot' something you said you would do, the 16th time you ignored me or the 30th time you choose to play your xbox in the middle of a fairly important, are-we-going-to-make-it discussion with me.
I have a busy life - I have 3 jobs. 120% course load. community involvement commitments. an active social life. a disease that steals my health, energy and patience. I don't have time, or the desire, to pour my energies into something that is not returned, to not be valued.
I don't have time for passive-aggressive bullshit.
Look at the people in your life. Are you treating them the way they want to be treated? are you taking the time to honor and respect them, to listen, to be a friend? Have you reached out recently to find out what's going on? There are people in your life right now for whom a few mins of your time, a hand to wash the dishes, a shared meal, would mean a lot. Even a phone call helps.
Who are you going to be in the world? How are you going to treat people? Choose wisely, because, as the meme says, a good woman can be lost.
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